Ask Dr. Pepper Schwartz - Love and Relationship Expert Have a love or relationship situation you just can't figure out - or perhaps, you just need a sounding board? Get personalized advice from the leading relationship expert in the nation, Dr. Pepper Schwartz! en-us Mon, 29 Sep 2008 10:00:00 -08:00 60 I've e-mailed a member and haven't had a response. It's been 3 days. I'm wondering what to do? Or, am I doing something wrong in sending my e-mails? First, I noticed your profile doesn't contain a picture In addition to your "main" photo, you really should take advantage of the opportunity to post as many pictures as possible. They not only provide a window about you and your life, but they also communicate you’ve taken the step to commit to the process by putting yourself out there. <br/><br/>Secondly, you haven't filled out your narrative (or bio) . The narrative's essential as it gives you an opportunity to share valuable details ... Mon, 29 Sep 2008 10:00:00 -08:00 A member has e-mailed me four times, but hasn't asked me out. We seem to have many things in common. I don’t want a pen pal. Any advice? If you're interested, I think it's time to ask this person out! After four exchanges, it's fair to suggest a meeting. If the person doesn't respond or puts it off, ask them straight out if they would like to meet you soon - or not. If they won't engage you on this question – they ignore it or makes excuses – I think you might tell this person exactly what you told me. You're on, looking for someone to share your life with. If they don't want move forward by meeting you, ... Thu, 12 Jun 2008 15:42:00 -08:00 I've been a widow for three years and I met a man on-line. He's a very caring person, and wants to do every thing for me he can. I feel the same about him. My problem is he isn't very socially conscience. He doesn't care about his clothes; they're clean, but not the kind he should wear to church, etc. He doesn't use very good English. Don't get me wrong. He’s a very nice man and it would really hurt him if I said anything about it. First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. <br><br>Second, you know, sometimes I think women were put on earth to help spiff up men. A lot of men don't really look at themselves the way a woman does. Your new friend, for example, may not realize he's presenting himself in a way which makes you uncomfortable. So, if you're going to have a long-term relationship, communication is paramount to its success. You do need to tell him how sharp he looks when he puts on something nicer than usual. And ... Thu, 3 Apr 2008 13:12:00 -08:00 I've been on-line for the past two years, and have been on lots and lots of dates. However, nothing ever pans out. I'm attractive, physically fit, look young for being 55 years old, I am without an ex-husband or children, have no debt and no addictions. I see myself as a really nice and down to earth woman. Yet, I'm alone weekend after weekend. What are your thoughts on my situation? You obviously attract men easily and I think that's because women have a better idea of what they want. You may want to revisit your profile and refine it slightly – especially if it has been a while since you last updated it! Make sure you update your photos, expand on the "In My Words" section and recheck your Deal Breakers to make sure they provide an accurate assessment of where you are at this stage of your life. While you are at it, you may want to consider retaking your ... Thu, 13 Mar 2008 16:20:00 -08:00 Can I ever be as confident, self-assured to others as I try to see myself? You see, I was in a terribly abusive long-term relationship. I try very hard to put the horror behind me. However, sometimes I'm very confused when it comes to knowing how to act or what to expect from a normal relationship. I've been celibate for about four years, and I want to change that. Still, I'm scared there's nobody normal will like me. You should join some groups whereby engaging in an activity, you'll get to know people quite well. Examples would be a volunteer for your local children's hospital, hiking, biking, a running club, lecture series, dance group, etc. What you are looking for is a place where you have the opportunity to interact with people. You should relax, be yourself and simply enjoy other people's company without worrying about sex or even dating. <br><br>As people get to like you, and you begin to trust ... Mon, 11 Feb 2008 11:50:00 -08:00 Copyright (c) 2007