What Is Love?
And How Do You Know If You Are In Love?
By Dr. Pepper Schwartz
What Is Love?
W.H. Auden called it, "...An intolerable neural itch...". Less cynical poets have agreed it's, "...The reason for living...". So, what is love?
For some: It's an obsessive need for one individual above all others; a craving to be with a specific individual; a respect and devotion inspired by no other person; a heart-pumping, breath-altering overall body sensation when this person walks in the room; or maybe a knowledge you would gladly give up just about anything (maybe everything?) to keep this person safe and happy.
For others: It's the person you want to hold hands with; raise a family with; hug when you first see them; cuddle with them on a couch; or just smile when you think of growing old together. In other words, love not only means different things to different people, its physical and emotional manifestations are different, too.
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How to Know If You Are In Love
We all know the first signs of love: Intense interest in the other person; a quickening pulse when he or she enters the room; consuming thoughts about them when they are gone; desire for their approval; desire for union; and knowing that their love is valuable, special, and unique in your life.
But is that really love? Are those feelings you can trust, or that you can use to make a commitment to help guide you to stay when things get rocky.
You know it's not easy to tell the difference sometimes. Because when there is strong attraction and physical desire for another person, anything your head wants to tell you that might be negative, your heart can over power.
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Question on Love and Friendship
I've been seeing a man for over a month and while I enjoy his company, I find nothing physically attractive about him even though I was hoping feelings for him would grow. Itís frustrating to not want someone whom you find great.
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