Dating Advice for Seniors
Ensure Your Online Success
Congratulations for taking the leap back into dating! Yes, we know while dating in your 20s may have been difficult, it's a vastly different landscape now. And, we mean that in a GREAT way. Think about it: What you bring to the table now as a mature adult is pretty significant. The fact of the matter is now, you've got wisdom, experience, and street smarts to help you identify exactly what you're looking for in a relationship. With those thoughts in mind, here're our tips for creating a profile which will help ensure your online dating success:
Make a List. Your expectations of what you desire in a relationship and a future mate should be accurately reflected in your on-line profile. Write down what type of person you are looking for, your expectation (i.e., companionship or marriage), your values and personal interests.
Be Honest. Create and write an online profile which honestly represents you. Remember, it's not about attracting quantity; it's about finding someone of quality.
Create an Amazing Headline. It's the first item someone reads about you. Two things to remember about creating a headline: Be brief; and be imaginative. If you're having trouble thinking about what to say, look at other headlines you thought were creative. It'll help stimulate your thoughts for your headline.
Out with the Negative. At some point in life, we've all been hurt or handed some disappointments in life. It's hard, but don't dwell on the past. A positive and forward-focused profile is much more approachable and will encourage other members to respond. Remember, anyone can be in a bad mood; you have to have something on the ball to be in a good mood!
"Look" Smart. Poor grammar and spelling errors give the reader a bad first impression. Show you care by avoiding abbreviations, and pay attention to incomplete or run-on sentences.
Don't Be Too Picky. When detailing what you want in a prospective mate, be careful not to get so specific you've painted yourself in a corner before you've even started. When you limit yourself on things like height, weight, hair color, etc., you may have just missed out on meeting your new life partner!
Include a Photo. Your on-line profile, along with a recent, clear photo, will receive up to 10 times more responses than a profile without a photo. Your main photo should be a nice headshot of you smiling tells others you took the time to put forth your best effort and you're proud of who you are. Skip the sunglasses, hats, costumes and other attire. Use the other seven photo opportunities to show your interests; i.e., boating, walking on the beach, square dancing, etc.
Respectful Communication: On-line and In-Person. Each of us loves to receive an e-mail well-thought out, warm and generous. After you've exchanged several e-mails with someone, it's good to pick up the phone and talk (and hopefully talk and talk!). Once you're both comfortable meeting in-person, set up a time and location convenient for both of you. Be on time, and of course, meet in a public place. Carry your cell phone and ensure several of your friends know where you are and whom you're with. Respectful communication will create a comfortable environment for you both and will make all the difference in the world as you move forward with your budding friendship!
10 Smart First Date Ideas
There's no question first dates can be nerve-wracking. What to wear? What to say? Where to go? All this uncertainty is compounded when it's not just a first date-but perhaps your first date in a long time.
Mature singles who haven't been "out there" for a while may feel more comfortable going on a group date. Perhaps even participating in group activities, such as a wine tasting outing or a picnic. Successful first dates at any age should center on common interests or hobbies. By tailoring a first date to include a shared value, you immediately establish a positive connection with others.
So, even though times have changed, the essence of a first date is still the same: Focus on common interests, keep an open mind and always have fun!
Here are 10 smart first date ideas tailored for more mature singles:
Spice it Up. Cooking can be fun and sexy. There're cooking classes for all levels available throughout the country. Checkout the food section of your local paper to see what area restaurants and community colleges are offering up courses.
Cut a Rug Ballroom, Salsa, Swing, and Samba. The choices are endless when it comes to dancing. Even if you haven't stepped on a dance floor in years, there're plenty of teachers who can help you get back in the swing of things. Besides being fun, dancing cheek-to-cheek may also help you further determine the chemistry factor.
Have a Picnic. One of the most romantic and soothing outings is a picnic by the lake or on the beach. This is invitingly enhanced when both people like the outdoors. If you're shopping for food and drink together, this will add to the adventure. If not, be sure you decide on what each of you will bring to eat.
The Beauty of Art. Share a love of art by going on a gallery walk or museum tour. You can also sign up for an art history lecture at your local university.
Set Sail on the High Seas. You can also keep it simple by renting a canoe or row boat and heading to a nearby lake or canal. If one of you is skilled, you can even rent a powerboat or sailing vessel. And, don't forget the excitement of a splurge on a moonlight cruise.
The Literary Word. What better way to bond than over your favorite books? Attending a book reading at your local bookstore or university is a great way to find common ground and keep the conversation flowing.
Get Moving. Perhaps your new friend enjoys hitting the courts or shares your passion for golf. All types of active outings make great first dates and help you stay in shape at the same time. Engaging in a physical activity can raise the level of intimacy, as you'll be more exposed both physically and emotionally. You'll discover how the other person deals with winning and losing.
Make Music. Whether you're moved by opera, country, rock, or classical, attending an indoor or outdoor concert is sure to set the tone for a great evening!
Cultivate Romance. If gardening is a shared passion, a trip to a plant nursery or arboretum could be a fun first date idea.
Wine and Dine. What's the difference between Shiraz and Syrah? A fun and easy way to find out is attending a wine tasting or by visiting a winery. This is ideal for a first encounter because it's both casual and informative, and yet, you're still able to talk to each other.