Have a love or relationship situation you can't figure out? Here, Dr. Schwartz shares her prudent and sensible ideas.
Dr. Schwatz's Answer
This is disheartening to someone like yourself, who carefully crafts an opening letter and deserves a civilized response. The person you contacted may have quickly looked at your profile, and if she wasn't attracted, declined to answer you - even though a better look at what you were saying, might have interested her if she'd given it the time it deserved. That's a problem all over the web. We think we have less of it on our site since our members are looking for relationships at PerfectMatch.comô, which implies more care and review of people and their profiles. I think people should at least send a one line response, a flattered thank you, and then a statement of non-interest if that is the case. This would make you (or anyone) feel more respected, even though it was a disappointing response.
I do wonder though, if there is something in your letter giving you worse luck than some other people. Why don't you email one of our customer service reps and see if they can give you some insight? You might be unintentionally saying something that bothers women, rather than engages them. Let us take a look at it and see if we can come up with some helpful hints. We most definitely want you to have a better experience, and find your perfect match!
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