Love and Friendship - Ask Dr. Pepper Schwartz

Have a love or relationship situation you can't figure out?
Here, Dr. Schwartz shares her prudent and sensible ideas.

Dr. Pepper Schwartz
Relationship Expert Perfectmatch.com

Question
I've been seeing a man for over a month and while I enjoy his company, I find nothing physically attractive about him even though I was hoping feelings for him would grow. It’s frustrating to not want someone whom you find great.

Dr. Schwatz's Answer
Yes, you’re right, it's frustrating. You’re experiencing the difference between friends and a potential long-lasting real love. We can adore a friend, but not want to be intimate with them but on the other hand, have great chemistry with someone but not be able to develop a relationship. A passionate relationship is about being able to find someone who's both a friend and a lover.

In all fairness to this man, you need to tell him you think he's great, but that you can only be friends. Don't string him along; it's not fair to him. He needs to find someone who will want him as a romantic partner. Then, do something very important for yourself and return to Perfectmatch.com to begin your search for love!

Dr. Pepper Schwartz

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