Singles & Seasons
Dating Advice for Singles Over 50
Congratulations for taking the leap back into dating! Yes, we know while dating in your 20s may have been difficult, it's a vastly different landscape now. And, we mean that in a GREAT way. Think about it: What you bring to the table now as a mature adult is pretty significant. The fact of the matter is now, you've got wisdom, experience, and street smarts to help you identify exactly what you're looking for in a relationship. With those thoughts in mind, here're our tips for creating a profile which will help ensure your online dating success:
Make a List. Your expectations of what you desire in a relationship and a future mate should be accurately reflected in your online profile. Write down what type of person you are looking for, your expectation (i.e., companionship or marriage), your values and personal interests.
Be Honest. Create and write an online profile which honestly represents you. Remember, it's not about attracting quantity; it's about finding someone of quality.
Create an Amazing Headline. It's the first item someone reads about you. Two things to remember about creating a headline: Be brief; and be imaginative. If you're having trouble thinking about what to say, look at other headlines you thought were creative. It'll help stimulate your thoughts for your headline.
Out with the Negative. At some point in life, we've all been hurt or handed some disappointments in life. It's hard, but don't dwell on the past. A positive and forward-focused profile is much more approachable and will encourage other members to respond. Remember, anyone can be in a bad mood; you have to have something on the ball to be in a good mood!
Finding Your Perfect Match...Over 50
Like hundreds of thousands do annually, I recently went to my college reunion. It was great fun. I was fascinated talking to and seeing people I hadn't been around in decades. In the course of these conversations, my former classmates talked about their careers, marriages and/or children. Sadly, some spoke of their divorces or death of a spouse. Listening to the newly, or suddenly single, I was interested by how many middle-aged people are now on their own.
During the reunion, some colleagues wanted to know more about my involvement with PerfectMatch.com and its relationship-centric focus. In fact, they pressed me to explain how it worked. Some had tried other dating sites, and came away disappointed. So, they challenged me to tell them why they should try PerfectMatch.com. Some wanted to know why they should try again, period.
Well, my answer was simple and honest. I firmly believe online dating is exactly right for older people searching for love and a committed relationship. PerfectMatch.com, in particular, is unique because its very foundation, from day one, was to encourage and promote relationships - not hook-ups. Sure, there may be the occasional member who just wants someone for a Saturday night here and there. However, they are, by far, the exception.
In my new book coming out this year, Prime: Adventures and Advice about love and sex and the Sensual Years (Prime), (HarperCollins) I describe my own experiences into the online dating world; looking for love, finding it, losing it and finding it again. I describe in realistic and graphic language my experiences and the expectations of the men I met, including emotional negotiations in and out of the bedroom. I think having used the online technology myself makes me a wiser and better qualified, hands-on counselor. In writing Prime, I wanted to share with women my mid-life dating experiences in a way I hoped were not only real, but also inspirational.
Senior Dating Advice
Get senior dating tips and advice from Dr. Pepper Schwartz - Senior Dating Expert for PerfectMatch.com, UW Sociology Professor, and AARP's Love and Relationships Ambassador
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