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I met this man on another dating site. He seemed very intelligent and interesting, although, thinking back, he did have a bit of a superiority complex about where he lived, his profession, education, etc. I do try to be open minded and optimistic, so I agreed to meet him for coffee at a Panera Bread that was halfway between our homes. Well, he walked in carrying a cup of coffee from Dunkin' Donuts. I was mortified. As if this wasn't bad enough, he never offered to buy me even a cup of coffee! Then he proceeded to orate fairly nonstop for over an hour, until I finally told him that I was tired and needed to get home. Of course, HE had a wonderful time and wanted to see me again. As for me? Not so much...
Make a wish? - Run far and fast from this date!
I met this guy on a popular dating site. We talked on the phone, he mentioned the 'hideous' woman he last dated. I asked ' what is hideous to you?'. She smelled of coffee, smoke...well, knowing better I still agreed to a first date at his suggestion an Applebee's.
After some pleasantries , he started running his hand in my hair, touching my shoulder, so I politely said I needed to go. He walked me to my car. Looked at me, quickly said "
Make a wish" and kissed my upper chest!!! I couldn't leave fast enough!
Turn off your phone already!
I went on a date in Manhattan to a upscale, 5 star restaurant, can't remember the name though. I used one of the alternate dating sites where you pay to get matched with a good date. It was one of those dating sites that claims to set women up with great matches by taking your information and using this information to select your match. Yeah right! They aren't sending you out to dinner or drinks with someone compatible. Let me tell you this was a terrible date, the worst ever. The guy never asked me anything, was a total jerk and very rude. He was supposed to be a financial guy, hardworking and the list goes on. He kept texting under the table the whole time and never really looked at me. I didn't get a hug or kiss, nada. He just took off after the date to talk on the phone, some business professional! I don't recommend this approach.
Meet a retired law enforcement man at a local pizza sports bar after talking a while we seemed to get along well after running into him a second time at the same place I agreed to go out with him. We talked on the phone several times prior to our date and he sent me flowers to my work saying how excited he was about our date forthcoming . I meet him at the same pizza sports bar and had a very nice Italian dinner and he wanted to go to another place for some fun and cocktails. We ended up the street away's at karaoke bar and we enjoyed watching people singing. I had one cocktail I make it a rule never to get drunk on dates especially first dates. He kept buying me shots after I said "no, thank you" I was passing them out to whom ever was standing by He continued to drink.. to the point of not being able to walk to the men's restroom.. When we left I was thinking how am I going to get back to my car that we left at the other place we had dinner? He starting throwing up in the parking lot. I asked for the keys so I can drive and he snapped at me .. "NO" he eventually passed out behind the wheel. I got his keys and placed them in the glove box wrote him a note where to find his keys. I got out and proceed to walk back to get my car.. when someone I knew drove by and waved me down and asked what was I doing walking ? It was almost 1:00 am I told her what had happened. My girlfriend gave me a ride to my car. We laughed about my date from hell still I didn't hear from him for a couple of days.. he apologized and had the nerve to ask me out again?? Of course I said "NO"
Come Meet My Beverly Hills Chihuahua?
I remember meeting a man for a first lunch date. First he started out by bad mouthing Arabs then went on to blacks. I couldn't believe it! He then started talking about his housekeeper offering him sex after she cleaned his house. While we were eating he grabbed my hand and held it firmly in his. He pointed out a woman across the room and commented on her elbows on the table and shoveling the food in her mouth. He invited me to his home around the corner to meet his chihuahua. As soon as I sat down on the sofa he leaned over and started kissing me! I am not taking a peck. I mean full on open mouth. Yuck. I couldn't get out of the door fast enough. He kept calling. I finally had to tell him he was the most crass person I had ever met and don't ever contact me again!
Brad Pitt Magically Becomes Brad Garrett
The worst date I ever had was with a man who on a dating site had posted a very old picture. Black hair, slim waistline. What a surprise to see an old gray hair'd big belly guy show up. Moral of the story - only post current pictures. Truth!
Can I Wash Your Car Too?
What great stories -- except for the really painful ones. I do hope you can all laugh recalling them. My two favorites dates, each from a certain other online dating service:
She suggests Starbucks on her side of town instead of dinner. This was only a year after my wife had died, and by chance, the night before I had driven by where my wife had lived when we had met. So on this date I'm gushing about my deceased wife. The woman gets up and says goodbye and leaves after about 8 minutes. What a jerk! Me, I mean! It's a hoot to remember now how quickly and politely she did the right thing.
The other one: I show up on time at the fine Beverly Hills restaurant this woman proposed. She's at the bar. "Get my drink," she says - meaning "Pay for and fetch my drink." No magic word. At the table she waits for me to set her drink down so I can pull her chair out for her. Gentleman that I am, I do. She tells me during dinner that she doesn't like my shoes. OK, thanks mom. After dinner she wants to go to the Four Seasons to dance. Two drinks there come to $70. But she did rub her ample chest against me once while we danced. Then to Dan Tana's bar for me to order more drinks. For her, not me. At the end of dinner, I offered her a ride home, since she had cabbed to the neighborhood. She declined and asked me to fetch a cab. So I fetched a cab. As I opened the door, she asked me to pay for it. Of course I did; by this time I was amused to see just how far her sense of entitlement went. I don't usually count, but it was a $270 first and last date, and other than sheer nerve, she was really boring. Nor did she seem to know either of the two magic words, please and thanks. But if she happens to read this: "Ma'am, thanks for the chest rub."
Note to Self - Next Time Make the Pecan Pie.
I had planned so much on my date. Had house perfectly cleaned. I looked great. We had a super time out hiking and then went to a restaurant. Came back home and had pie and coffee. I even sent pie home with him. He as glad to get it. I don't want the pounds on me anyway! I sent an email about being excited about what we did and him. Said to call anytime. I suggested I come over with soup and cornbread next Saturday and that we could watch "John Adams" (the first cd as there are three). He wrote back that he couldn't because he was going to hear his son preach as he goes to some church that worships on Saturday - not 7 day some shoot of Baptist. He just ended the email with "have a good week." In the email he thanked me for the day and the pie. What is wrong? He is still grieving over losing his wife. I feel he likes me. Probably one time a month is enough for him but not for me. I want romance and to see each other and do fun things together and sometime to do something really nice. There can be plenty of home time because I love to cook. NEED HELP
Weekend at Bernie's Part II ?
After several weeks of conversation by phone, text, and email we finally met face-to-face at a nice restaurant for dinner. He looked nothing like his photo (which I had imagined his face based on that photo every time we spoke) so that did throw me off some, he was late, he was very nervous. We had become very close at this point and our first kiss was great. Like always he told me how beautiful he thought I was and wanted to know when he could see me again. Asked me not to date anyone else because he wanted me all to himself and wanted to build a life with me. After the kiss he seemed to be in a hurry to leave. So we got in our separate cars and went our separate ways. Long story short as the relationship would continue with texting, phone calls, and email we never saw each other again and the relationship is going on two months now. One morning I get a text from his phone that he has had a heart attack and passed away (it was supposed to be another family member using his phone to contact me). Anyway, I felt awful and wanted to go to the visitation. Days passed and I was unable to find an obituary to know where to go for the services. I asked a friend at a local funeral home to help me and she could not find any record of his death and found him on Facebook involved with another woman! I emailed this woman and we exchanged information and found out we had both been dating the same man for the same amount of time and he was romancing us both from the same script. The only difference was she lived closer to him and had spend more time with him and had become intimate with him. They are still together. So the good thing is no one died, but the bad thing is I learned trust is a hard thing to truly have again.
Oh No You Di'Ant Just Say That!
I've spent some time getting ready and dressing up with my best dress, waiting for this date of mine to pick me up... guess what... he was late, that was fine with me still. The worst part is the moment I got up the car, he looked at me and I asked him is there anything wrong, he said: "you don't have to really dress up so nicely" you can just wear a T-shirt and a shorts.' I was so shocked to hear the first time in my life that a guy does not appreciate a lady dress up in high respect to her date. In return, I asked him out of courtesy, does he want me to go and change. He said he's willing to wait for me to change. Oh my god, what am I doing with this guy, that came across my mind... Sigh, what a waste of time with all the preparation! So I went back and change and he said that's more likely. I swear that I will never want to see him again after the first date. It was really a 'weird & funny' experience to me.
Winner, Winner Chicken Dinner - Uh, Not Quite?
I met a nice man for coffee and we walked along the piers at a lakeshore. It was a beautiful day and I was enjoying his company and learning more about him. We decided to extend the date and spend the evening at a casino. At the end of the evening I felt comfortable with him. Over the next three days things turned to harassment. He sent me over 40 text messages and a dozen lavender roses. He was on pain pills and he would sit in a bar after work drinking. I tried to tell him to stop texting me and he would then ask me to go on his cell phone plan with him and he would pay for it. He wanted to get tickets for a concert 4 months away. I finally stopped responding to him and he finally left me alone but not before divulging the fact that he had ED and all it would take was a shot and he would be ready to go! I finally blocked all his correspondence on my computer, denied access to my face book and demanded he stopped emailing and texting me. He has finally stopped but I was fearful that he would attempt to reach me at my home, which thankfully he did not. I'm not sure I want to continue on any dating sites any more. This man has ruined my outlook on finding any man online...I'm hoping PerfectMatch can help save the day!
Well I've had a few
As the song lyrics go, "well I've had a few", lol.
Possibly the worst came after 4 months of great dates, being with the woman's family on social occasions, as well as home visits. The morning after our first night spent together, she broke down crying. Well, immediately I was on the defensive and wondered what I had done or said to cause her distress. It was only then that she confessed to having been married 5 times previously!!!!!!!!!!
We are no longer in contact.
So my all star date showed up late, with unkempt hair wearing an old football jersey that was a size too small and jeans that should have been washed 2 wearings ago. As soon as we sat down I noticed that he was wearing a wedding ring. When I asked about the ring he broke down in tears and told me all about his late beloved wife who had died of cancer 6 months ago. He was unable to hold a conversation on any topic I tried, giving only one word responses. It was the world's shortest dinner date. I really didn't think it was possible to get seated, served, eat and leave TGI Fridays in less than 45 minutes but we did it. This led to one of my fundamental rules of dating...if he's not ready to take the wedding ring off, he's not ready to date.
Foot Hand Into Mouth.
I met him online, we emailed for 6 weeks, talked on the phone several times. He appeared to be professional, business like, and normal. We met at a restaurant for dinner for our first face to face. Halfway through dinner he began to pick his teeth, not just quick, got something on my front tooth swipe, no the ignorant man had his hand in his mouth up to his knuckles picking his back teeth, not just once, but 4-6 times. I was so disgusted I looked away, I would have excused myself to go to the bathroom and jumped out the window,but alas no windows. I thought I was on an episode of Punked or Candid Camera it was sooo bad. After dinner I reached out to shake his hand ( I sure wasn't kissing him) but I didn't want to touch his hand either. On the way home I figured since it was so blatant and rude he must have done it on purpose because he decided he didn't want to see me again. Nope he emailed the next day said he had a great time and wanted to do it again. I told him someone came back into my life from the past, and we were going to give it a try, much as he should have been told, I decided he was 55 and if he didn't know better, my telling him would not have helped.
Stomach Virus Anyone?
Well ... This was my end of the dating disaster, after a few dates and lots of emails and phone calls I decided I would let the man I was seeing meet my son. All went well until later in the evening when my son decided to get sick all over the back of my car. I was like ohh poor baby and of course mom mode kicked in and who what someone else is there? Well after the third time my son throws up, the guy is willing to drive me and my son to the ER and waited all night with us to end up getting the stomach flu too. He's still talking to me.... I dont know why :). I consider a child throwing up all over your date usually not a good sign.
So it wasnt a horrific "I cant believe I went out with him disaster" as much as it was murphy's law real life dating disaster.
I'd like to share a story about diverting a dating disaster. From our first and second mutually agreed upon, "short dates," I noticed red flags popping up. She was late for both dates. On the second date, she confessed her photo was 6 years younger as she was 6 years older than her profile stated. Finally, I learned on the second date, she was divorced twice. No big thing, however she told me she was married only once on our first date....
Who Let the Dogs Out?!
Hmmm... I HAVE A FEW!!! LOL!! There was the social worker who made barking noises at attractive women that walked by us as he was holding my hand and exchanged numbers with them! There was the business consultant who told me on our first date he was stabbed but when I confronted him about it being a lap band surgery pretended to be missing/dead for the weekend out of embarrassment! The IT guy who said was moving in at the end of our 1st date! The personal trainer who left me hanging at our weekend getaway because when he went home to get his stuff...his had WIFE destroyed his stuff when she found out. (I didn't know he was married!) There was the supposed executive who showed up twenty years older than what he claimed, not the guy in the pic, scary irritation or skin problem, one eye looked over my shoulder, the other over my head. When I said I wanted to end the date because he lied..he offered me $100 to grab my boobs in his pick up truck! (I declined! lol) The research analyst who said he needed a wife that would live in a secluded cabin he built in Colorado and have "relations" with other men! The firefighter who said he was hoping to find a woman that wanted to be blessed with his seed! The professional poker player who said, "I hope I don't have dark babies with you!"... after I told him my little sister is adopted and black! The stock broker who told me I had a big mouth after his wife called me after finding my number on his phone after our date. The orthopedic surgeon that got drunk, made me follow him in circles for a half hour while he decided where to go on our date instead of going in one car, got drunk, showed me about twenty pictures of his ex throughout dinner and kept asking me, "She's beautiful isn't she?!" Then insisted he was over her, wanted to date me again and told me he was sorry though because "What they say about Asians" applied to him! At the time it's not funny but eventually they make for great stories when with friends and family! LOL!
Ok. We arrange to meet at a place for wine, cheese and bread. I arrive at the appointed time to discover my date's already eaten, strewing bread crumbs all over the table. He does brush them off and offer me a place to sit. He did ask if I wanted to order. ( his plate was clean and he was obviously done.) After a bit, I excuse myself to the restroom. There I check the time, only 1/2 hour had passed. I thought surely it had been 2 hours. Oh, the guy wore his cell phone on a lanyard around his neck. No second date.