By Dr. Pepper Schwartz
Summer has arrived. It's time for long awaited vacations, unwelcomed sunburns, holiday backyard barbeques and weddings. That's right, it's wedding season-which can be a real pain in the heart for singles. Traditional romantics plan for a summer wedding so they can have their event outside with less fear of an unaccommodating weather display.
As a result, the months between June and September can be littered with dewy eyed couples talking about how they found their soul mate and why they are the luckiest people in the world. Congratulations to them, but this is not exactly an emotional upper for people who haven't been able to find the right date for the last 40 Saturday nights.
Have faith! I'm here to show you that summer can be used as a romantic aid, rather than a migraine headache. Below are some ideas to make summer the time you find your one and only, rather than envy the wedding couples who have no idea how miserable they are making you feel.
Use Weddings as Your Hunting Grounds
Generally, wedding couples invite people as old as they are. So no matter your age, there are likely to be several people there in your age group, and some of them are bound to be single. Call up the person who is getting married (even if they are a nephew twice removed) and ask to be seated at a "singles" table. If they can't think of anyone interesting to seat you near, ask if you can bring a same sex friend. Your host will be more inclined to say yes if they haven't already thought of seating you at a fun table. Now you and your friend can give each other encouragement about approaching some Babe or Hunk who appears to be alone. Don't take an opposite sex friend: potential date candidates will think you are taken.
Sweat brings people closer: use the sun to do outdoor activities that are informal and make it easier to connect. Join a motorcycle group (oooh, how sexy is that?), or a beach volleyball group (if you are in decent shape), or a hiking club (if you are not in good shape but want to get there). If you're allergic to athletics, there are other outdoor things to do: get involved in concerts, help your candidate as they travel around the state or country looking for votes, or join Habitat for Humanity, a volunteer group that builds houses for people who can't afford them. Doing something with people outdoors just seems to somehow feel better. And, it usually jump-starts intimacy quicker than being indoors.
Summer Only Events
Take advantage of all those events that only happen in the summer. If bank robbers rob banks because "that's where the money is," then singles need to go to outdoor events, because "that's where the people are." Summer is the time for festivals, street fairs, outdoor concerts-and yes, beach, garden and roof parties. In fact, why not throw one of these for yourself? Reserve a place and get a few friends of yours to pitch in on some of the refreshments, etc. It's easy to find a bunch of single people who live in your city utilizing PerfectMatch.com. Invite them to your outdoor picnic, and ask them to bring a bunch of single friends. Tell them there will be beer (if it's legal in that park or location) and munchies, but everyone should pitch in for a pot luck outing. Make sure everyone RSVPs to ensure you know approximately how many people are coming. It's a safe way for people to meet, and outdoor parties at a picturesque location are attractive because people can come and go at will. Summer is prime time for an outdoor singles party. People are much more likely to accept an invitation to a beach, park, lake or even a backyard, then something indoors.
Summer doesn't have to be the "poor me'" season. Weddings can be great locations for finding someone, and at the very least, a place to have a good time. You can choose either to show off the results of your new exercise regime at the beach, or cover up the results of a lot of great winter meals at a street fair, festival or jazz concert. Whatever you do, don't let all that lovey dovey stuff at weddings and showers get you down. Instead, let it inspire you to create your own kind of romance before the summer ends!
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