Been feeling lonely lately? It might be intensified because it's the season of the maximal exposure of flesh- bodies everywhere! Its hard not to think of pairing up when you don't even have to go to the beach to see men and women whose shorts are so teenie and tops are so minimal that they give the impression of being almost nude. Sure, there are a few pieces of cloth here or there that keep them from being arrested, but basically, these people are not wearing anything that would hide a major secret!
Some of you will find this inspiring -others of you will find it intimidating. If you feel you can compete in this sea of hard bodies- you are probably strutting your stuff proudly. But if you are like the majority of Americans who have more than a few extra pounds, this display of lean competitors might have driven you more to despair than to our dating site.
I'm here to tell you not to let those perfect bodies make you feel bad. Despite what it seems, the majority of us do not have zero body fat-and yet, we are entirely loveable. True, there are people out there who only advertize for very fit partners-and they mean it. Don't approach someone like that if you have observably extra poundage. It will not be a fun experience. But on the other hand, if the person does not emphasize fitness or being slender, etc, weight is probably not their most important criteria for considering someone for a serious relationship. In other words, you shouldn't imagine that everyone out there thinks that twenty extra pounds (or even a lot more) is an automatic turn off.
What you do have to be is honest. Honest about who you are and what you want-honest about what picture you use, what size you say you are, and, if weight is really important to you- make it clear in a nice way. (" The most important thing to me is a person's character- but weight is also something I care about. I take really good care of myself and fitness is part of what I bring to the table and part of what I would like from someone else".)
Likewise, if you do not look like an Olympic swimmer- just put it out there. "I have been told I am very attractive, but if you don't like skinny guys ( or 'if you don't like bigger, voluptuous women') then I am not for you." Sure, this will cut out somebody's interest in you_ but not the people who are looking for a long term relationship with someone like you. What happens if you lie about that extra weight or your body type? Usually, nothing good. No one needs to endure the humiliation of having someone take one look at them- and clearly show disappointment. Honesty and self knowledge will spare you that. Be assured : There are many men and women out who consider body type very low on the list of important criteria for a life time partner. Don't deny them the chance of meeting you simply because you think only the men and women who look like models or athletes can date successfully on the internet.
Remember most people are looking for a soul mate-and that exists above the collar bone.
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