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What are you giving thanks for this Thanksgiving? Even in the worst of times - most of us have something to be grateful for-and at the very least, we celebrate the founding of this country, the times of peace and good will, and yes, plentiful food.

This is my favorite holiday and I usually open my table to friends, family..and just about anyone I know who is looking for a warm community to celebrate with. The good news for singles is that these dinners are usually composed of a mixture of family and friends- and so Thanksgiving is not usually an awkward holiday for people who aren't in a coupled relationship.

However, both you and I know what's just around the corner: Christmas Eve and Christmas and New Years-holidays that make you nervous about celebrating them without someone you love! I don't want to bring you down- but wouldn't it be better to window shop, listen to a choir, or go to holiday parties with someone you were romantically excited about? Wouldn't it be nice this year if you could hold hands as you view the holiday parades or pick out a tree together? Yes - of course it would!

It's not too late you know! You are not the only one even more motivated than usual to find someone special because of the specter of holiday music, parties, celebrations- and yes, New Year's Eve. Still, this time of year can be seen as an opportunity instead of a gauntlet. Parties are a good place to look for a special someone-and also a good place to take someone you've met on PerfectMatch. You get to see how the two of you do in social situations- and, let's face it, it's a lot more fun to enter a crowded room with a honey than it is to do it alone. Have you ever hugged the wall at a cocktail party because it was just too daunting to get to know all those strangers? That is no fun- but it's also no fun to sit at your annual Thanksgiving supper, pelted with endless questions from relatives about your love life! It's not hard to get tired of friends, family and even acquaintances at these gatherings discussing your single status as if it were a disease. Just think: if you are there with a date, they will leave you alone!

Seriously, instead of letting the holidays depress you, let them entertain you. Get out there now, have a few coffees, meet some people with potential- and enjoy their company during the coming weeks. If you get serious about this now you might have someone who will help buffer holiday stress and enhance your holiday spirit. It is entirely possible if you are ambitious and meet quite a few people in the next couple of weeks that you will find someone so wonderful that suddenly your holiday mood will turn from grumpy and lonely to hopeful and happy. Remember: November and December are about connecting with people and about being upbeat and festive. Do your part by giving romance a chance! After all-there is no more festive atmosphere than the one that surrounds a couple who is rapidly falling in love!

I suggest you dedicate at least 45 minutes a week to finding love for yourself. Two or three times a week - grab a glass of wine, a cup of coffee - or cocoa - and spend 15 minutes looking at your profile, viewing video profiles - or (yes) actually reaching out and sending a few members an email, icebreaker - or how about trying the new "LikeIt! Feature.

All of the features on the site have been designed to create a stepping stone - a path to success. However, they can't work - if you don't try them.

So let's get going...and have a great holiday!