Personal Goals for 2012!

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So here we are again at the end of a year; Time to take stock; Time to re-organize "the list".

"The List" is something we all have, whether we have physically written things down-or just made a mental note. Most of us have a list of what we hoped we would accomplish this past year, and what we are still working on. Hopefully some of your romance to do list has been checked off - (I know you have done at least one thing towards finding love because you are using PerfectMatch.com!)

Still, because you are reading this, I will assume that you have not found (or kept) true love yet. So, let's figure out a new strategy and bump this goal to the top of your list. You don't want to give up on a goal just because finding your perfect match hasn't happened yet. (It doesn't help crossing something off the list if the only reason you take it off is because it's been there so long it's depressing to look at).

So, if we are getting ready to make a new list for next year, I have a new idea: how about making a list just about romance and making it short. This way you just have to fulfill those few personal goals you put down.

To keep it doable, I would like to give you the "rule of three" as the way to guide your next romantic moves. The "rule of three" is a list so short and so clear - that you will actually do it!

Here are the three goals I think you need to do- and you can do- if your goal really is to find a long term partner here at PerfectMatch. (You can stop reading now if you really aren't serious about finding someone- but I hope you are).

Goal One: Because I want a partner I will re-organize and prioritize my time.

I don't know how much work you are investing now on prioritizing your time for love, but if you are really devoted to finding a committed relationship, you will work at this every day. I know a man who, when his marriage fell apart, he panicked because he had been married since he was 21. He didn't know how to be alone- and he didn't want to be alone. He became a member of PerfectMatch.com and arranged three coffee dates a week, sometimes more! There was nothing more important to him. Result: First a relationship that lasted about three months; then about six months after the end of that relationship he met the woman he's been married to for 8 years. He wasn't kidding around. He made the best of his time to find love.

Goal Two: Because I have not yet found a partner, I will change one thing about myself that is getting in my way!

This goal requires you to stop kidding yourself and change one thing that might be getting in your way and causing you to turn down your PerfectMatch. If you are not sure what it is- ask a friend to be honest with you and tell you. Here is a list of some possible faux pas to choose from:

Talk too much, listen too little

Too opinionated, intolerant

Too much or too little sexiness

Too much bragging about money or too much complaining about it

Too bitter about ex or too attached and still in love with ex

Too heavy or too thin (gym and nutrition time!)

Too dishonest or too frank

Too flattering or not flattering enough

Too busy and independent or too dependent

Too much drinking, smoking, gambling

Too little attention to hygiene, clothes or neatness

Too arrogant, too humble and insecure

Just tackle one of these things!

Goal Three: Because I want a partner I will shorten my "deal breaker" list of what a partner must be and ask for only two major things.

Yes you are unlikely to find someone who is charming, intelligent, gorgeous, rich, funny, sensitive, charismatic, successful, humble, impeccable taste, romantic, adoring, independent -( but needs you), the right height, weight, eye color, loves your hobbies, feels the same way about kids, politics, animals and religion that you do, etc. etc. etc. Pick two things in that list that are most important to you- let the rest vary - and find someone great!

Sound simple enough? Three things to do in pursuit of love- why not start the New Year right - and by using PerfectMatch.com achieve the one goal you really want - Someone to spend your life with!