Monolith Date Ideas from Monolith Singles

Post Date: Jun 20, 2011

susie from Bakersfield says: i love to go for a cold one and the local hang out - 'la mina cantina' - woo hoo - cheap happy hour drinks and free food - can't beat that

Post Date: Mar 9, 2011

james from Bakersfield says: rolling hills

Post Date: Jan 26, 2011

Monica from Lancaster says: Probably one of the restaurants we have in Lancaster, CA. It provides the opportunity for a good meal and long conversation.

Post Date: Jun 24, 2011

Freddy from Bakersfield says: Rosa's very nice

Post Date: Mar 5, 2011

jay from Bakersfield says: I like to go to the Red Lobster.

Post Date: Jan 30, 2011

Lews from Bakersfield says: Valentiens restaurant. Perhaps you would enjoy it too!




A Serious Relationship…Are You Ready?

Unfortunately, knowing for certain when you are ready for a serious relationship, isn't one of the simpler things in life. There'll come a time when we "think" we're ready. But then, after we've leaped in, we feel like we're drowning, and we start struggling and kicking to get out of the water. This causes sadness, and often anger, to the person we are with. It's usually not something we're proud of doing to another person, or ourselves. So, here're a few dating and relationship tips to consider before you jump off the cliff…and then realize you have no idea how deep the water is.


The very talented and extremely funny comedian, Jeff Foxworthy, used to say, "You know you're a redneck if…". Well, you know you're ready for a serious relationship if:

  • You start to be bored when going out with others who are not contenders for a long-lasting future, even if they are handsome or beautiful, smart, entertaining and/or recent lottery winners.  Read More

Dr. Pepper Schwartz - Dating & Relationship Expert

Top 10 Dating Tips

1. Date Night Plan

Waiting until the last minute may make things spontaneous - or disastrous. Plan your date in advance, set expectations and ensure your date is in agreement. Know how to get there, where to park, when things are open, etc. Look like you know how to make things happen seamlessly.

2. Appropriateness Date Location

Make sure what you've picked out and/or suggested has some relevance to what this person might actually enjoy. Doing something you both enjoy will go a long way towards relationship building.

3. Sensitivity

If your date happens on a weeknight, don't select a movie ending at 11.00 p.m. The more solutions you've prepared for in advance, the less anxious your date will be. This clearly shows your thoughtfulness.

4. Respect

Sure, she or he really looks great and you're more impressed as the evening goes along. However, don't push physical attraction too soon. You could be making a serious mistake if you attempt to manhandle her or him.

5. Listen to Your Date

Listening is very important at any stage of dating or a relationship. Show her or him you know them better at the end of the date, than you did at the beginning.

6. Stay Light

Do something positive you both can share in, without it being embarrassing. Select something appealing to your date; i.e., go to a water park if she or he likes water, or an outdoor rock concert if they like the performers. Perhaps, see a romantic comedy or take a hike. Whatever you're doing, don't sit and talk about your exes, troubled kids, etc. These are conversation topics which will come later if the relationship progresses.

7. Connect

Make a real effort to find commonalities. Listen and learn a little about each other's childhood and past. See if your values and life's outlook are similar. This is an excellent exploration period.

8. Anticipate

As always, you should look your best. A light kiss at the end of the night that promises more…someday...is sexier than a lip scrunching passionate kiss that surprises your date and possibly puts him or her off.

9. Laugh

Laughter is bonding, infectious and attractive. If you're going to the movies, ensure the film's funny; if going to a comedy club, know the comedians are funny; or go roller skating and laugh at yourselves. Laughter is a great release for any nervousness.

10. Show Appreciation

Acknowledge someone's kindness, thoughtfulness or generosity. Don't assume anything and don't come off as being spoiled. Verbally let them know their hard work, planning or good humor didn't go unnoticed. And, make yourself an irresistible choice for future dates.