About Aptos Singles

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 18.2% of Aptos Singles say their sense of humor is: Dry 
 28.9% of Aptos Singles say their favorite romantic gesture is: Flowers 

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Aptos Date Ideas from Aptos Singles

Post Date: Jan 29, 2011

Tamar from Aptos says: the beach!

Post Date: Aug 8, 2011

Alesha from Santa Clara says: Santana Row in San Jose

Post Date: Jul 21, 2011

David from San Jose says: There is a quiet, Thai restaurant in downtown San Jose that has a nice atmosphere and good food. It is a great place to converse.

Post Date: Jul 5, 2011

Melody from Santa Clara says: I am going to first change this to the first date question. A first date should be a simple meet for coffee. If things don't click no hard feeling and we can part company. Then if we do like each other lets not always be so stuff. A date should be fun. No not a movie because you can't talk. Lets be silly and go Miniature Golfing or Bowling and the go eat. We can talk about our other likes there. Maybe the theatre or museums while we are laughing and having fun.

Post Date: Jun 24, 2011

stacz from San Jose says: I love adventurous dates. Some of my best dates have been a kite surfing lesson (Santa Cruz), bocce ball (Los Gatos) and kayaking (Elk Horn Slough).

Post Date: Jun 19, 2011

paula from San Jose says: Dinner at Dio Deka in Los Gatos

Post Date: Jun 13, 2011

Mark from Pacific Grove says: Carmel, Pebble Beach and Lover's Point along the coast in Pacific Grove.

Post Date: Jun 9, 2011

Patsy from San Jose says: The mountain Winery for dinner and a show. A Giants game in San Francisco, then a stroll down Crissy Field on a calm day or night.

Post Date: Jun 6, 2011

Meredith from San Jose says: Local eatery

Post Date: Jun 6, 2011

artsytrish from San Jose says: A little Mexican restaurant downtown

Post Date: Jun 3, 2011

Nick from Los Altos says: My favorite date location is a coffee house.

Post Date: May 19, 2011

EDITH from Salinas says: Near the ocaen/beach

Post Date: Apr 29, 2011

Lainey from Monterey says: Are you kidding? I live in Monterey where god would live if she could afford it! I adore sharing the beauty of the Monterey peninsula and never tire of taking Highway 1 down the coast to Ventana, Nepenthe, Djeeten's or Post Ranch. I would love to take the drive completely to SLO making stops along the way at the Hermitage Monastery, Limekiln Creek and places I've never stopped at before.

Post Date: Apr 24, 2011

Jeffrey from Santa Cruz says: the boardwalk

Post Date: Apr 22, 2011

CarrieAnn from Carmel by the Sea says: Carmel by the Sea is a date location- anywhere with someone you care for and share with.

Facts about Aptos Singles

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When asked about their Education, they answered
Some college (25.3%)
Bachelors degree (23.1%)
Graduate degree (18.2%)

When asked about their Profession, they answered
Self employed (13.6%)
Student (8.8%)
Medical/Health services (8.4%)

When asked about their Sense of Humor, they answered
Dry (18.2%)
Sarcasm (9.7%)
Wisecrack (7.1%)

When asked about their Food Habits, they answered
Varies (Depends on my mood) (43.5%)
Health Conscious (I watch what I eat) (40.6%)
Vegetarian/Vegan (3.2%)

When asked if they Smoked, they answered
Nonsmoker (69.8%)
Socially (10.4%)
Moderately (6.5%)

When asked about Drinking, they answered
Socially (52.3%)
Do not drink (22.1%)
Moderately (13.3%)

When asked about thier Religious Habits, they answered
Religion is not important to me (26.6%)
Attend religious services occasionally (23.4%)
Worship in private (22.7%)

When asked about what Romantic Gesture they preferred, they answered
Flowers (28.9%)
Long massage (14.6%)
Candlelit dinner at home (11.7%)

When asked about their Pets, they answered
Cat (39.6%)
Dog (32.8%)
Bird (9.1%)

A Serious Relationship…Are You Ready?

Unfortunately, knowing for certain when you are ready for a serious relationship, isn't one of the simpler things in life. There'll come a time when we "think" we're ready. But then, after we've leaped in, we feel like we're drowning, and we start struggling and kicking to get out of the water. This causes sadness, and often anger, to the person we are with. It's usually not something we're proud of doing to another person, or ourselves. So, here're a few dating and relationship tips to consider before you jump off the cliff…and then realize you have no idea how deep the water is.

The very talented and extremely funny comedian, Jeff Foxworthy, used to say, "You know you're a redneck if…". Well, you know you're ready for a serious relationship if:

  • You start to be bored when going out with others who are not contenders for a long-lasting future, even if they are handsome or beautiful, smart, entertaining and/or recent lottery winners.  Read More

Dr. Pepper Schwartz - Dating & Relationship Expert

Top 10 Dating Tips

1. Date Night Plan

Waiting until the last minute may make things spontaneous - or disastrous. Plan your date in advance, set expectations and ensure your date is in agreement. Know how to get there, where to park, when things are open, etc. Look like you know how to make things happen seamlessly.

2. Appropriateness Date Location

Make sure what you've picked out and/or suggested has some relevance to what this person might actually enjoy. Doing something you both enjoy will go a long way towards relationship building.

3. Sensitivity

If your date happens on a weeknight, don't select a movie ending at 11.00 p.m. The more solutions you've prepared for in advance, the less anxious your date will be. This clearly shows your thoughtfulness.

4. Respect

Sure, she or he really looks great and you're more impressed as the evening goes along. However, don't push physical attraction too soon. You could be making a serious mistake if you attempt to manhandle her or him.

5. Listen to Your Date

Listening is very important at any stage of dating or a relationship. Show her or him you know them better at the end of the date, than you did at the beginning.

6. Stay Light

Do something positive you both can share in, without it being embarrassing. Select something appealing to your date; i.e., go to a water park if she or he likes water, or an outdoor rock concert if they like the performers. Perhaps, see a romantic comedy or take a hike. Whatever you're doing, don't sit and talk about your exes, troubled kids, etc. These are conversation topics which will come later if the relationship progresses.

7. Connect

Make a real effort to find commonalities. Listen and learn a little about each other's childhood and past. See if your values and life's outlook are similar. This is an excellent exploration period.

8. Anticipate

As always, you should look your best. A light kiss at the end of the night that promises more…someday...is sexier than a lip scrunching passionate kiss that surprises your date and possibly puts him or her off.

9. Laugh

Laughter is bonding, infectious and attractive. If you're going to the movies, ensure the film's funny; if going to a comedy club, know the comedians are funny; or go roller skating and laugh at yourselves. Laughter is a great release for any nervousness.

10. Show Appreciation

Acknowledge someone's kindness, thoughtfulness or generosity. Don't assume anything and don't come off as being spoiled. Verbally let them know their hard work, planning or good humor didn't go unnoticed. And, make yourself an irresistible choice for future dates.